The couple had 2 weddings to honor their American and Italian culture

  • I never imagined myself getting married – but I ended up having two weddings.
  • I’m American and my husband is Italian, so we wanted to celebrate both of our cultures.
  • Our marriages were so different, and when I think about them I can’t help but smile.

I never wanted to get married – and yet my husband and I actually ended up having two weddings.

My husband, Vito, and I got engaged in Italy, where he was born and raised and where we lived together. I’m from New York, a real city girl.

I honestly could never imagine a typical wedding, with the big white princess dress and the classic tiered cake. I couldn’t even imagine walking down the aisle. A big fancy wedding just wasn’t my style, nor my husband’s.

We wanted to celebrate it in a way that felt natural and show what was most important: our love. We also wanted to honor our different backgrounds.

So we decided to have two weddings.

We were first married in New York

Our first wedding took place in New York on March 8, 2017. It was perfect — nothing fancy, but full of love, just what we wanted.

It was an unusually warm day and the sun was shining. I didn’t want to get a new dress for the occasion, but I wanted something that symbolized the “old” and my life in New York — so I wore a white polyester dress from Forever 21, along with brown leather boots.

We got married at City Hall in Queens, with only my parents to witness. It was a perfect casual New York wedding, especially since our matron of honor—a petite, eccentric old woman—was the epitome of old-school New York. After the ceremony, my parents and I had lunch at a small Italian restaurant in Queens, along with a bottle of prosecco to celebrate.

A week later we hosted a dinner at my favorite restaurant, Frost, in Williamsburg, which was also my late grandmother Nettie’s favorite restaurant. It was a way for me to honor one of the most important people in my life — and it was like he was with us for our special day.

We had pasta dishes with red sauce and eggplant parmesan and the red wine was flowing. It was a small, intimate affair, with just my parents and a few close friends, full of laughter and smiles. It reminded me of days spent in my childhood, just the way I wanted it to be. It was a way to show my new husband the old me.

Then we got married in Italy

Later that summer we celebrated with a wedding in Italy at a local agritourism or working farm. The place was amazing, with a view of the mountains to keep us company.

We had our party outside in nature. We were surrounded by my husband’s friends and family. All together we were around 40. We danced barefoot all night to traditional Italian folk music.

It was a quintessential Italian outdoor wedding — the perfect way to welcome me to my new married life in Italy. In New York, I grew up surrounded by skyscrapers and the incessant sound of cars. Here, we would live a quieter life in the countryside.

Our weddings still make me smile

Just the thought of our two weddings still brings a smile to my face. They were so different and yet the same: They were relaxed, intimate and, most importantly, full of laughter and love.

I love that my husband and I basically each had our own wedding. Our wedding in New York was a way for me to celebrate my past and say goodbye to my old life. Our Italian wedding was a perfect way for my husband and I to start our life together, celebrating his roots and paying homage to the beautiful country we call home.

We have been married for almost six years and our love continues to grow and grow stronger — no doubt with the help of the love we brought into this world together, our daughter, Lucia-Antonia.

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